Friends For Never: Why It’s Normal To Grow Apart From Your High School Friends

Coming to the realization that I’m not close to my high school friends was hard for me because they were a huge part of my life, mostly because some of them have been my friends since grade one. My “home friends”, as we call them at school, are different from me. We have been friends for so long but don’t have a lot in common. What we did have was a lot of time to spend together because that’s what high school life is like. You spend time with your friends in class, during lunch and probably after school too! With that being said, I have a special place for them in my heart. Thinking about how much time you spend with your friends in your four years of high school is actually crazy to me. They are the people that were with me during a lot of my “firsts” in life, and I was there for theirs; it’s a special bond we have.

I grew up in a town an hour from where I live now and it’s hard to stay connected with those hometown friends. I honestly do love them because they have done a lot for me and helped shaped me into who I am today. But, now that my parents no longer live there, I have less of a reason, and hardly any time, to go there. I am a really busy person so it’s hard to be able to attend all the events that take place there. With being in full-time school, working 20+ hours a week, spending time with my family, and trying to maintain my social life, there’s not much time left.

Despite drifting apart I want to say thank you for being there with me every step of the way. Being there during my first high school dance, my first major crush and even trekking with me to Montreal and Cuba. Thank you for trusting me with your lives when I first got my driver’s license. Thank you for helping me sneak out of my house and for going to parties with me. Thank you for always being there when I needed a friend. Without you guys, my life would have been very different and for that, I am forever grateful.

I have made plenty of friends here at my university. They are more similar to me because we know more about ourselves and are in similar places in life. I feel completely myself around them; they know what I’m like now, not what I was like then. You go through different kinds of experiences and challenges as you grow; I feel like a completely new person now.

You change a lot in your university years, mostly for the better.

When I get the chance to see my high school friends once in awhile, I smile and think about all the stupid things we did together. I love the random phone calls I get from them; it’s a good feeling to catch up. I enjoy their company and it’s great to see how far everyone has come. We have memories that will last forever but I do miss the closeness we shared.

A lot of time has passed by but I am thankful for my friends, old and new.

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