Why Watching Porn Can Actually Destroy Your Sex Life

Recently, I watched a TED Talk revolving around the subject of porn’s impact on the minds and lives of young people. I found the arguments presented intriguing and while I would not wish to attack men, women or even the porn industry itself, it’s a subject we really should be talking about.

In today’s generation, word on the street is that young men are losing their “groove” in bed and women are feeling the pressure to amaze due to excessive exposure to porn. But is porn really ruining our sex lives?

Cindy Gallop, founder of “Make Love, Not Porn,” openly talks about how an entire generation has a skewed idea of sex because of hardcore porn. According to Gallop, “99.9 percent of all mainstream porn is made by men for men. The entire goal of mainstream porn is to get the man off. As a result, an entire generation of guys and girls is growing up believing that the be-all and end-all of sex is to get the man off.”

Gallop explains in her video that porn is being utilized as a stand-in for sex education with youth. There are numerous things that aren’t being openly talked about in school and with parents, so young adults are looking to porn for answers. She makes it very clear on her website that she is not anti-porn, but rather encourages people to watch porn without any expectations. Her slogan of “Make Love, Not Porn” is intended to help inspire and stimulate open conversations about sex and healthy relationships.

So how is porn really affecting college students?

While in school, it’s hard to find time for a boyfriend or girlfriend, let alone the right person. That’s where porn’s free, unlimited accessibility comes in. Today’s users can find their release by watching porn in multiple windows, searching endlessly until they find the hottest bit or sexiest video to fulfill their needs. Joseph Gordon-Levitt produced Don Jon, a movie that is about the balance of porn and love. It showed how easy it was to have unlimited access to porn, how he found his release in his own way, and how that affected his sexual experiences with women. He stopped watching porn and found the right kind of satisfaction – love.

After watching Don Jon and “Make Love, Not Porn,” I took away one specific message: watching porn is too easy! There are too many expectations and false ideas of what you and your partner should do. It may only lead to disappointment and hurt feelings when you return to reality

If you feel like a lot of your expectations and understanding of sex come from porn , then try to cut it out a little! Help end the cycle of what’s considered “hot and dirty.” Find someone who is going to appreciate your love and your body, and vice versa, without any sexual expectations. I guarantee if this generation stops relying on porn as a release or as sex education, relationships and sexual experiences will change for the better.

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  1. […] In fact, many women do something they call the “5 date rule” or the “3 date rule” or whatever length of time in which we feel comfortable enough to have sex with the lights off and fake an orgasm in order to prove to said male that yes, we are damn good in bed. (Let’s face it, it’s never truly that good the first time and if it is – lock that shit down, hun). Although, I think this phenomenon is more than just feeling comfortable to let our thighs jiggle naked in front of a new guy. I think it has more to do with not wanting to seem to easy. Or trying to build a relationship before you take that next step, hoping to dear god he stays for the 6th date and the round two (hence the fake dramatic orgasm). […]

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