Ahh college, the big leagues of education. All those nights you’ve stayed in studying and sacrificing sleep to get good grades still can’t help you with the biggest personal challenge you’ll face during those four years: mixed signals. No matter how many interpersonal classes you take, ladies, nothing will help you better understand a males mentality. Does he actually like me? Am I just a booty call? What does it mean when he texts me first?
Well Doctor Bryenn is here to clear up the confusion. What I am going to reveal, though probably against bro code, are the top 10 ‘symptoms’ you’ll experience when you’re just a booty call. Watch out for these 10 signals that men initiate if it’s lust and not love.
Let’s begin.
1) He’ll want minimal interaction and will usually do this by providing a distraction to avoid constant communication with you. For example, it’s you and him at his place “watching” a movie (hint: it’s not the movie he’s interested in). Before you know it you’re snuggled up in a blanket with all your clothes missing and your hair frazzled. Oops. That wasn’t part of the movie. But you satisfied the reason he called you over there in the first place.
2) He never introduces you to his guy friends or family. This one is important because if you matter to him then he’ll want to show you off. And he will want to spend a lot of time with you –not just in the sheets.
3) He never shows you off to his friends that are girls. This is a huge deal. He’s letting them know that he’s marked territory now and, in doing so, is burning any booty call bridge he had or could have had.
4) He never talks about the future with you or never wants to talk about the terms of your relationship. Sorry, hun, there is no future with you other than the next time he gets drunk and can’t find another girl to take home. You’re most likely plan B because of how available you’ve made yourself to him.
5) Common excuses used to avoid your questions about your future together include: “I’m not sure what I’m doing with my life right now,” “I just got out of a long relationship,” “Aren’t you having fun though?” “Why do we have to make this complicated?”, “I’m too busy to have a girlfriend right now,” or “Can we talk about this later?”
6) He texts you at irregular times; for example, he sends you a 2 a.m.“What’s up?” text. This isn’t because he’s concerned about what or how you’re doing, it’s a test to see if you’re up. When you reply is when he’ll initiate the booty call attempt.
7) He doesn’t text you during the weekdays to see how you’re doing or create general conversation with you. Most of the time he won’t respond if you text him and then he’ll come up with some bullshit excuse later. Keep an eye out for the short answers as well.
8) He never takes you on a date. Why would he? He gets exactly what he wants out of you without having to indirectly pay for it.
9) He hardly ever, if at all, kisses you – this is a sign of affection, not lust.
10) He doesn’t cuddle, especially after sex –again another form of affection that requires the guy to spend time after he’s satisfied, which is very unlikely if he’s using you.
I would say if you’re hooking up with a guy and you can relate to at least three of these signs, then he just sees you as a booty call and it’s time you take appropriate action (this is unless you like being used.) So ladies, toughen up your defense now that you know the plays and you’ll never be labeled a booty call girl again.
Why can’t the girl use the guy as a booty call and be using him?
Exactly, women need booty calls sometimes too.